[Feature]: AutoDeploy: use torch's built-in rms norm as reference

[lucaslie]

🚀 The feature, motivation and pitch

see #9504 (comment)

Consider using torch.nn.functional's rms norm instead of eager rms norm our torch_rmsnorm custom op as reference op for rms norm

Will require updates to the pattern matching infra as well and the use of rms norm throughout the code base

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