fix: handle some more nil checks and possible panics

[joekr]

What this PR does / why we need it:
Adds more nil checks, updates the PTR package to have a ToBool() and removes some panics to allow the control loop to better handle errors.

Which issue(s) this PR fixes (optional, in fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...) format, will close the issue(s) when PR gets merged):
NA

[joekr]

unit tests

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ok      github.com/oracle/cluster-api-provider-oci/cloud/util   1.688s  coverage: 60.9% of statements
ok      github.com/oracle/cluster-api-provider-oci/controllers  3.766s  coverage: 59.2% of statements
ok      github.com/oracle/cluster-api-provider-oci/exp/api/v1beta1      8.683s  coverage: 15.3% of statements
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e2e tests

Ran 9 of 31 Specs in 3824.072 seconds
SUCCESS! -- 9 Passed | 0 Failed | 0 Pending | 22 Skipped

[HaoyL666]

LGTM

[HaoyL666]

LGTM!